I have always struggled with comparison: in school, at work, on social media, at church… and most of the time, I let it defeat me! But today I want to show you how you can chose to say NO to negative comparison.
What do I define as (negative) comparison? A feeling of inadequacy (being unequal) to perform at our best ability due to believing other people’s ability defines the approval of our own.
We are human though so comparison is natural, normal, unavoidable but we can chose how destructible it is, how much value we give it, and we how we let it affect us.
1. Know who you are in God.
ACTIVITY: Read Ephesians 2:10, Ephesians 1:5, 1 John 3:1-2, Psalm 139:14 - what does it tell you about your identity in God?
You are His child, His treasure, His masterpiece. God has placed YOU here on earth for a reason, yes he’s also placed everyone else here for a reason but that doesn’t exclude you.
Prayer: God, may I be filled with the knowledge that I am your child whom you love!
2. Know who you are in yourself.
ACTIVITY: Write down your own strengths and weaknesses as a person.
Looking at your strengths: that’s amazing, don’t stop now!
Looking at your weaknesses: pick some which you can work on, and talk to someone about it so they can help you
You are not perfect, but you’re valuable, vintage items are normally worn and used!
God has called you here for a purpose, to be yourself.
Prayer: God, may I be filled with the knowledge that I am wonderfully made, and therefore should always be myself.
3. Know who you are among other people.
ACTIVITY: Encourage someone
Where you have strengths, other people will have weaknesses, and where you have weaknesses, other people have strengths. We were made to live in harmony, unity, community with each-other, and fill in the gaps where people need help. We were made to build each other up, that’s why its important to encourage in order to keep people aware of their own amazing ability.
But knowing that your validation comes from God and not other people’s affirmation is a really important thing:
Galatians 1:10 (NIV): Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. - Important that we know where the true affirmation and approval is coming from.
Prayer: God, may I be filled with the knowledge that I am surrounded by people who you made and deserve loving.
4. What else can you do practically?
Talk to someone about how you’re feeling
Pray about it, God cares and is always willing to listen and meet with you
Do something about it (e.g. work on the skills that you want to improve, learn from your peers who you may compare yourself to)