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Steph lives in Watford and works for Soul Survivor Watford Church. She is currently doing a Theology degree in London. Last year, she released her first single called ‘Love’s Song’.

Being A Girl

Being A Girl

Why do we have periods?

In order to prepare for a woman to get pregnant, your uterus (where a baby grows) lining gets thicker every month or so, but if you don’t get a pregnant when that happens the lining then gets released from your body through your vagina as blood (I have heard lots of funny names for this part of your body such as your foof or your vajayjay!).

How often do we have them?

Normally, every month (28 days). However, for some women they can be more irregular than that so either the time between their periods is longer than that or shorter than that; most of the time this is extremely normal and nothing to worry about!

Sophie’s Story:
For sometime I only used to have my period once every 8 weeks, at first this really freaked me out because I thought there was something wrong with me but I was assured that my body would soon find a routine and it did! So now, even though it sometimes changes, I have my period every month.

When should I start?

Everyone starts at different ages, some could be as early as 10, some could be as late as 16. It all depends on when your body starts puberty! (Boobs, hair under your arms and between your legs…)

Nadia’s Story:
I started my period when I was 11, I was at school and it completely took me by surprise! Fortunately for me, I had friends with me who I could tell and some of them had even started their period themselves! I felt really embarrassed but I knew I needed to do something so wasn’t uncomfortable all day so my friends and I went to a teacher we loved and she pulled out a little box from her desk of ‘period stuff’ and happily gave me some stuff (sanitary towels which you lay onto your pants, tampons which you place up your vajayjay).

If you have any more questions here’s a good website for you to look at:
https://always.com/en-us/tips-and-advice/your-first-period/10-common-period-questions

So girls, basically what I want you to know is that your period is 100% natural, 100% normal, 100% okay to talk about and only around 60% rubbish depending on how painful your cramps (when the muscles in your uterus contract to release blood) can be (some females suffer from bad cramps, some females don’t suffer at all…). The other 40% (in my opinion) comes from the fact that you need to eat more and keep your iron levels up… and among those high in iron foods are red meat, beans, spinach and CHOCOLATE.

Finally, don’t ever be afraid to talk about it, and don’t allow other people to make you feel like you can’t talk about it! Especially boys who don’t understand what it’s like! Which brings me onto my next topic…

WHY ON EARTH ARE BOYS SO ANNOYING?

Now before you get aggressive thinking about all the smelly boys that have annoyed you this week, let me tell you something - it gets BETTER. I have some of the most amazing boys as friends today who have given me advice, looked after me, protected me, challenged me. I also have 2 brothers who used to wind me up so much when I was younger but now that we are all away in different parts of the country studying and working, I wish nothing more than to be with them!

So how do I cope with them now?!

Did you know that it is scientifically proven that the majority of girls start puberty before boys? Which actually means that teenage girls are often more mature than teenage boys and therefore the boys will tend to act more childishly than the girls through adolescence (developing from a child into an adult). Now, this gives boys no right to be rude or mean however it does show us that for a lot of them it’s just part of who they are and we just have to wait for them to become more mature. It’s not an easy ride but that’s why it’s so important to have your friends who are girls who you can relate to, talk about periods to, talk about boys to, and who are the same level of maturity as you!

Okay next topic!

WHY ON EARTH CAN I NOT PLAY FOOTBALL?!


This section is all about COMBATTING STEREOTYPES and so first things first, you can play football.

You know that whole girls wear pink, boys wear blue shabang? Well, I’m here to tell you that my dad wears a pink shirt and looks great in it and my favourite colour is…… BLUE. Now that was very simple but lets say you absolutely love rugby and want to join a club outside of school which trains at the weekend, but you kinda feel like it’s a ‘boy sport’ and you also have a brother who keeps reminding you it’s a ‘boy sport’ - how do you even find the courage to go to a session?

“Crowned’s easy 3 step guide to combatting stereotypes”
1. If it’s what you LOVE, it’s part of WHO YOU ARE and you are BRILLIANT. No one has the power to take your passions away from you, so if it’s what you enjoy to do then go for it and actually you’ll find that more people are empowered by you than ashamed of you! Don’t fall into the trap of believing something is only for boys or girls, it is only an idea not a rule.
2. Find someone to combat the stereotype with! Maybe you overheard another girl in your class talking about how she wants to join a rugby club or maybe once you join you see there’s another girl there too. Feeling comforted by knowing there is someone out there with the same passion as you is a great way to begin stepping into acting on that passion.
3. If you don’t want to be involved in stereotypes then don’t create them, watch what you’re saying day to day about what’s “girly” and what’s “manly” and don’t speak over anyone that they can’t do something because it doesn’t fit right with their ‘gender’ because then when the time comes and you fancy playing some rugby no one can say it you.

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